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| Best Ways New Dad Can Help A New Mom |
The arrival of a new baby brings a number of changes in life, especially if that child is the first child of the parents.
There is great wonder
and amazement every time we hear of a father not sleeping at night and taking
care of his newborn baby. Both mother and father are responsible for the
newborn baby. Mothers should not assume all the responsibility of caring for a
child. Let the father also play a role in it.
No matter how prepared they are, those who are first parents
go through a mild shock in the first few weeks. Although both parents make
a lot of adjustments in life at this time, naturally the mother has to take on
a lot more responsibilities at this time. The first few weeks are much harder
for the mother than the push on the body during childbirth. The father has
a lot to do in this difficult time so that the father's bond with the child is
strengthened and the mother's workload is somewhat reduced.
Once a baby is born,
most fathers are not sure what to do to help. It is easy for fathers to feel
overwhelmed and helpless. Often, honestly, they have no idea what they can do
to get in and help the mother and baby.
1. Stay by the side while
breastfeeding
It is very difficult for a mother to
breastfeed her baby in the first few weeks. During this time she may have
to be busy breastfeeding most of the day. As a result, she cannot do many
things by herself at this time. At this time as a partner, you should keep
her in the most comfortable position. At this time you can bring her water
or juice and some healthy snacks. After a while, you may want to know if she
needs anything or if she has to do some housework.
2. Holding the baby in your lap
There is nothing that a newborn’s
father cannot do except breastfeed. This time is a great opportunity for
the father to hold the baby in his arms and strengthen the bond with the
baby. This connection of the skin to the skin which is called ‘Kangaroo
Care’ is not just for mother and baby; you can spend this time as long as you
want as a parent without any hesitation. At the same time, the newborn’s
mother can get some free time to take a break.
3. Let mother sleep
The need for sufficient sleep is
much higher for the new mother. If the father cooperates a lot in all the
activities of the mother after the birth of the child, then both the parents
need adequate sleep. It is usually very difficult for a new mother to get
enough sleep because she has to spend sleepless nights with the baby. At
this time, the father can help so that the mom gets enough sleep. You can
spend some time alone with the baby, giving the mother a chance to
sleep. Assure the mother that you will take care of her baby properly.
4. Replace baby diapers
You can do some of the baby's own
chores while you are at home. Newborn diapers have to be changed many
times a day. Dad should do this whenever he gets a chance. Once done,
the task will seem much easier and the baby will be very happy with you.
5. Bathe the baby
Bathing a newborn may seem like a
daunting task, but it's actually a chore. A new father must learn to bathe a
newborn. The first few days you can master how to do the job by following
the baby's mother. If mom can, then, of course, you can too. Bathing
the baby is a very fun moment.
6. Help to feed the baby
No matter what breast milk or
formula the baby eats, you as a parent can take the responsibility of feeding
the baby from time to time. When a baby is breastfeeding, the father
can provide supportive support. If the child is formula feed, the father can prepare it himself according to the amount and can also
feed the baby.
Remember that if you take
responsibility for some nights, it will be a huge opportunity for the new mom
to rest
7. Cook for the baby
Since a large part of the mother's
day is spent on childcare, it is very difficult for her to find time for other
tasks. If cooking was your partner’s responsibility before your child’s arrival
into the family, it may not be right to expect the same thing to happen after
the child arrives. Instead, try to surprise your new mom by cooking for
her. Cook any food for her, e.g. cook breakfast in the morning before going to
work or take over to cook dinner as often as possible. Make sure that the
nourishing mother eats three healthy meals a day.
8. Order food
If you feel that cooking is not
happening to you at all then you can order food from outside. Although
this will increase the cost, think about how much work it will reduce for the
mother. Be careful to order healthy food, keeping in mind the nutritional needs of the breastfeeding mother. Make sure that she is taking out the time in her busy schedule to eat.
9. Praise the mother of the
newborn
After giving birth, a new mother
needs both physical and emotional support. Many new mothers are seen to be
worried about their post-pregnancy bodies. As new mothers, many people do not
think that they are good enough to take care of their children. Many
mothers are skeptical and wonder if they are doing the right thing. Encourage
her and let her know that you are doing a great job. Many of the mothers are worried
about their look after childbirth. You explain to her that she was beautiful
before she became a mother and now she is more beautiful after becoming a
mother. Also, express how impressed you are with her sense of
responsibility and skill as a mother.
10. Give some new gifts
Previous clothes may not fit the
mother's body now. Buy some new clothes for her without giving her a
chance to get upset about it. You can also give her books on parenting, or
her favorite perfume as a gift.
11. Talk to her
The new mother goes through many hormonal changes. Talk
to her as much as you can at this time. Want to know what's going on in
his mind. This will not only give her a chance to talk but also bring you
closer together. It is very possible that the first
mothers and fathers made mistakes. Instead of criticizing the new mom, thank
her for her efforts. Tell her what to do but don't walk on her. Being a good
listener is important. If she doesn't feel heard, she’ll more desperate want to
talk about those things.
12. Give the opportunity to go
to the parlor
It is very necessary to pamper the
new mother. On holidays you leave the baby with you for a while and send her
to the beauty salon or massage parlor. Send her
for a massage, whenever possible. Holding a baby on the arm throughout the day,
especially after giving birth, is not always easy on the shoulder and back. If
money is the problem, give her a massage, without expecting anything in return.
13. Try to laugh
Many couples are seen to be serious
about everything after having children. Remember, laughter and jokes will improve
your relationship and it also removes a lot of fatigue.
14. Be patient
Many hormonal changes take place in
the mother's body after childbirth. Many moms have to go through mood
swings and baby blues at this time. If you lose patience at this time, it
will not work at all. Remember, it is much easier to overcome this
difficult time with love.
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